What a great and profound sadness has fallen upon the family and friends who have lost loved ones in the Texas floods. There are few words that can truly describe the emotional and physical toll such loss takes. Our hearts and prayers go out to those whose lives have been forever changed.
Because of the widespread availability of the internet and media, the floods in Texas have entered our homes and conversations. But how do we discuss such a difficult topic—one that involves unimaginable loss?
Talking to Family
With Your Partner
It’s OK—and in some cases, important—to sit down with your partner and talk about the tragedy. You may not realize that they’re struggling with sadness related to these events. Be there to support their feelings. Offer gentle reassurance and remind them that they’re not alone.
Grief is deeply personal. Do not minimize their feelings, thoughts, or even their silence. Everyone grieves differently, and your presence and openness can offer comfort in ways that words can’t always achieve.
With Children
This is a sensitive area. Should we share such painful realities with children? And if so, how much is too much?
Psychologists remind us that children process information based on their developmental stage. Here’s a general guide to consider—but always take your child’s unique emotional and developmental needs into account:
- Preschoolers (3–5 years):
Young children may begin to understand that someone is “gone” but struggle with the concept of permanence. You can gently acknowledge the event, but don’t expect deep comprehension. - Early to Late School Age (5–9 years):
At this age, children begin to grasp the finality of death. Use simple, honest language, and answer questions directly. They will often mirror your emotional tone. - Pre-Adolescents (9–12 years):
This group understands death more fully and may experience anxiety or fear. Offer reassurance. Let them know they are safe, loved, and that it’s OK to feel confused or sad. - Adolescents (12+ years):
Teens understand death in a more adult way, including its emotional, spiritual, and philosophical aspects. Don’t shy away from sharing your own beliefs or feelings. These conversations can help deepen your connection and offer comfort and clarity.
Talking to Friends and Coworkers
This tragedy is on everyone’s minds and will likely come up in conversation—at work, with friends, or in community spaces.
At work, whether it’s appropriate to discuss may depend on your organization’s culture and policies. Some environments may encourage space for emotional processing; others may be more formal. Use your judgment, and above all, respect boundaries.
When talking with friends, remember: people grieve and express emotions differently. Some may want to talk about it deeply, others may prefer to avoid the topic altogether. Respect their individual responses.
Final Thoughts
The floods in Texas are a tragedy of monumental proportions—not only due to the loss of life, but also because of the unbearable burden placed on the families left behind. Let’s keep those families in our thoughts.
Don’t be afraid to take time to reflect, talk, and remember. Tragedy can bring out our shared humanity. Through listening, comforting, and hoping together, we can begin to heal—and continue to carry forward the indomitable spirit within us all.
Norman Lloyd, MA, LPC, Retired Army Veteran
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