What better follow-up to Get Gnarly Day than National All or Nothing Day?
After yesterday’s invitation to get uncomfortable, challenge norms, and embrace new ideas, today dares us to take it one step further: Go all in—or step away.
Oh, baby, how that hits home for me. This might sound extreme, but as a therapist and a regular ‘ol human being, I see it less as a threat and more as a loving nudge to choose intention over inertia.
What Is All or Nothing Day?
This isn’t about perfectionism (lifelong recovering perfectionist here!) or drama. It’s not “succeed wildly or you’re a failure.” It’s about presence. About commitment. About shedding the halfhearted habits, the “maybe someday” mindset, and the emotional gray zones we so often settle in (but they are soooo comfortable, aren’t they??).
In a world that encourages multitasking, distraction, and dipping a toe in every pool just in case, All or Nothing Day is a breath of focused air. It asks:
- What do you really want?
- What are you pretending not to know?
- What would it look like to go all in?
All In on Your Dreams
Maybe it’s finally writing that book. Or quitting a job that’s draining the life out of you. Or starting that business, dance class, or move across the country you’ve been talking about for years. These desires don’t go away for a reason—they’re pointing you to your aliveness.
Yes, it’s scary. Yes, you might fail. And yes, you’ll likely grow in ways you can’t predict.
When clients come to me stuck in cycles of self-doubt or procrastination, we often uncover that they’re not really afraid of failure—they’re afraid of what it means to truly commit. Because when you go all in, you’re vulnerable (I, personally, am a little allergic to this one). You’re seen. And that takes courage.
But I’ll tell you this: being “sort of” invested keeps you stuck. Taking bold, aligned action—even imperfectly—moves mountains.
All In on Your Relationships
Now let’s talk love.
All or Nothing Day isn’t just about careers or dreams. It’s a mirror for your relationships too. Are you in—really in? Emotionally present? Communicating honestly? Investing fully in growth, pleasure, repair, and depth?
Or are you skating by—numbing, avoiding, hoping it’ll get better without real change?
I see couples all the time who are caught in limbo: they don’t want to leave, but they’re too afraid or too tired to re-engage. And I get it—life is hard, and connection takes effort. But intimacy doesn’t flourish in half-presence.
Sometimes, “all in” looks like attending therapy, having the hard conversation, or vulnerably asking for what you need.
Sometimes, “all done” is the braver choice—leaving what no longer serves to make space for what will.
Your “All In” Doesn’t Have to Look Like Anyone Else’s
Going all in doesn’t mean burnout or obsession. It means alignment—showing up fully and honestly in the things that matter to you.
Your all in might be taking one focused hour each morning for your creative project.
Or finally telling your partner you want more passion, or space, or honesty.
Or just admitting that you want something different than you’ve been pretending to want.
Final Thought
So today, on National All or Nothing Day, take one bold step.
Say the thing. Sign up. Let go. Go for broke.
Because a life half-lived isn’t really living.
And you, my dear, were made for color, depth, and wholeness.
🌀 Reflective Prompt:
What’s one area of your life or relationship where you’ve been holding back—and what would “all in” look like for you?
Tammy Fisher, MA, LPC-S, LMFT-S, CST
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